Why We Didn’t Find Out The Gender

When we got to the 20-week stage and we were able to find out the gender of our baby, my husband and I were at loggerheads. He wanted to find out so that we could plan things a little tighter. I think he understood how much I normally need all the information and clear plans, so really, I think he wanted to know for my peace of mind. Whereas because everything else in the pregnancy was so closely monitored due to my fertility issues, I wanted to let it be a surprise. But beyond that, there was a few other reasons why I didn’t want to find out the gender. And in this blog post I am going to share them with you.

 

 

My pregnancy is so closely monitored already.

As I mentioned above, because of the fertility issues that I had before we got pregnant, I am being very closely monitored. That means scans and check-ups every few weeks. Not to mention blood tests whenever a nurse even looks at me. I am grateful to be monitored because I know that the NHS is stretched, but it can take some of the magic away as it makes the whole process even more clinical than it usually is.

 

Encourages all baby items to be gender neutral.

As somebody that is almost 30 with many friends that have had babies, I have gone to my fair share of baby showers. Over the years, I have seen a plethora of over the top, stereotypical gender gifts. Where they know it is a girl, there are tutu’s, everything’s covered in unicorns, glitter and rainbows. Then if it’s a boy everything is blue, covered in footballs and just incredibly tacky. Keeping the gender secret will ensure that everything is kept neutral and white!

 

Makes the birth experience even more exciting.

As we do get closer to my due date, I am finding that not knowing is making me even more excited for the day that I give birth. I am so desperate to know that I am having, but I think it will be the best feeling in the world to see my baby for the first time and learn the gender. We literally lay in bed together at night thinking of different names, wondering what our baby boy would look like, or what our baby girl could act like. It just heightens all the feelings.

 

A moment just for my husband and I to share.

I also think that one of the best things about not finding out the gender will be having a special moment with my husband. There will be a small-time following delivery and sharing the news where my husband and I will be the only two people that know if we have a baby girl or boy. I cannot wait to see my husband’s reaction; I think it will most certainly be a core memory that stays with me for the rest of my life.

 

We get to share the news with our loved ones.

Once the baby is here and we have got our heads around the news, we will then have the excitement once again of sharing the news with our loved ones. I can only imagine how exciting it will be to ring our parents and let them know what the gender of our baby is. I know that my husband’s mother will absolutely lose her mind regardless, but it will be so exciting to see her reaction. Not to mention the other grandparents will be just as excited. I think my dad will cry!

 

As always, I hope you guys loved learning a little more about my pregnancy and why we aren’t finding out the gender. It is a personal thing and I know that everybody is different. My sister for one wanted to know the gender of both of her babies straight away and I don’t blame her. Just that for me, I wanted that magical moment where we meet our baby for the first time and learn what gender it is. Just a special moment for my husband and I before we tell the people that we love. I would love to hear from you guys on this. Leave me a comment below and let me know if you found out the gender of your baby, or would you?