Today, I am going to take some time to speak to you about my relationship and marriage. As you can imagine, this is going to be a very personal blog post. Marriage was something that I didn’t dream of as a little girl. To tell you the truth, I never thought that I would get married. I feel like I need to start out this blog post by saying that I am very happy in my marriage.
My husband is a wonderful man and I don’t regret our choice. We got married when we were both only 24 years old. We had been together a long time and it felt like the next natural thing to do. Whenever we would speak to anybody, they would always ask when we were getting engaged or married. In the end, we just decided to go for it.
Why I have reservations.
We do love the fact that we are husband and wife. I still however have niggles about certain things and I want to talk. These aren’t things about our relationship specifically but around the concept of marriage in general. I still think that there are so many negative connotations around marriage. Honestly, I feel like these are only the things that I have noticed, the older that I have got. It has been 3 years since we got married. During that time, I learned a lot and educated myself. Having the mindset which I have now, I don’t think that I would have ever wanted to tie the knot. I understand that it is the norm. Many people aspire to get married to the love of their life. For me, it just doesn’t feel right.
The history of marriage.
I think is the whole original origins around the concept of marriage that have me annoyed. As I am sure you guys know, back in the day, marriage was a transaction. Something that families arranged to profit and to sign ownership over women. The rights that women had as wives were horrendous. I fully accept that over the years the idea of marriage has been romanticized and I just don’t know how I feel about it. As you may know, I have a degree in history and I adore learning about the past. The truth is, the history around marriage has always been kind of sketchy and it can just make me uncomfortable.
Did we need this?
I guess the other thing for me is that I just didn’t feel like we needed to get married. As I mentioned, it felt like the next logical thing to do in our relationship. We loved each other, but did we really need a piece of paper to prove it? Honestly, I don’t think that it is needed. We are such a big part of each other’s lives; the wedding didn’t make a difference. All of our friends know that we are a couple, wearing a ring and having a flashy day didn’t mean that much to us. I feel like I have to say this again, I do adore my husband and I don’t regret our choice, I just wouldn’t do it again. Plus, we aren’t religious and the wedding really was just affirmation to others that we are a serious couple.
Conclusion.
I will leave this blog post here because I just wanted to share this. My relationship and marriage are very different to others and I know that. My husband and I are wonderfully happy and I guess my reason for this blog post is simply that marriage has not made any difference to us as a couple. Because married or not, our relationship would still be the same. However, I wish at the time, we had stopped to think about who we were having the wedding for. Did we want the wedding, or was it for others? However, did we really need this as a couple or were we just going with the flow?
I would love to hear from you guys. Please do leave me a comment. Let me know your thoughts on marriage. Is it something that you have done and loved? Is it something that you question the need for in modern-day society?
