Some of you guys may already know that in September of 2019, I got married to my lovely husband. To say that we broke the mould and had a very simple and paired-back wedding would be putting it mildly, but we loved the day and made the most of every single moment of our day.

We got ready with one another in the morning time, we travelled to the venue together, there was no walking down the aisle, only 10 people attended the ceremony, there was no first dance, no fixed three-course meal, no speeches and the music was 100% selected by the two of us and all of these things made our day perfect for us.

We understand completely that our wedding day would not be for everybody, but we had our reasons for having a simple wedding and honestly looking back, I would not change a single thing about our entire day. So I thought that I would write a blog post today all about some of the reasons why we had a simple wedding and why we encourage other people to really think about the wedding traditions that you want to include in a part of their wedding day because you really can do anything that you want, regardless of what couples have done before you!

 

 

Money.

When I say this, please do not think that it is a personal attack on anybody and other people’s relationships, because we know that so many people long for a large wedding, but we just did not need it. We did not need to spend the best part of £20K (or more) in order to want to marry each other. It is a massive bonus that our wedding cost merely a few hundred pounds, but honestly money barely even came into our thinking. If you truly love each other, it is about the two of you coming together, not the pissing content that seems to be happening at the moment with the absolutely massive and extravagant weddings. Spending hoards of cash does not make you any happier.

 

Family Politics.

Another reason why we wanted a small wedding was to cut out some of the family politics. Like I said, we had only 10 people at our wedding and that was simply our immediate family and our grandparents. No friends were invited and those who attended the ceremony were not allowed plus ones. It sounds really harsh, but it is just more simple than trying to fit our very large families into the small numbers which are allowed at the ceremonies and we know that we will always look back on our wedding pictures and know and love everybody in the shots!

 

We Have Been to Many Weddings and Know What We Like.

My husband and I are of the age where many of our friends have gotten married and from that we learnt some of the things that we liked from weddings and many of the things that we did not like. It made us realise that for us, many of the normal wedding traditions such as the speeches and first dances were more cringey than they were special. I know that we probably sound like mardy arses, but it is just our honest opinion. It helped us to mould our day into something perfect for us.

 

We Are Particular People.

My husband and I are quite particular and we are cut from the same cloth. We would hate to wear stuffy outfits and feel uncomfortable all day long. We would not like it if we had to dance just the two of us in front of all of our guests. Not to mention that we would have hated for a DJ to play a cheesy wedding playlist. Instead of just going along with the norm for a wedding. So, we made sure that if we are paying money for other people to attend a massive party on our behalf, it had to be the perfect occasion for us and not just what other people expected.

 

We Know What the People in Our Life Want.

We both realised that a wedding is about so much more than just the two of us. The occasion needed to be special for our guests. Not to mention that we also know our family and group of friends incredibly well. If we had a three-course meal of pretentious food, our guests would have been bored. If we had speeches they would heckle us. And if we had Cotton Eyed Joe on in the evening they would have been bored. Honestly, so many of our guests have said how much they loved our day. How much fun it was in comparison to so many other weddings that they had been to!

 

Like I said above, we could have had a big wedding that costs near on £30,000. It just would not have made us any happier. Honestly, the pictures of my husband and I from our wedding day are absolutely hilarious. We laughed the entire day long and we just had a blast. I have been to so many weddings over the past couple of years. Most fun people seemed stressed and uncomfortable in their wedding finery. I know that not everybody will want something as simple as us. But I really do encourage people to think about their day. What do you want out of it? What will your guests want? We have had nothing but praise from people about how much fun they had. Many also said that they wished that they did more to adapt the day for themselves.

The only splurge for our wedding day was my pair of Manolo Blahnik heels which actually cost more than our ceremony and reception!