How To Be Alone But Not Lonely

Today I am going to be writing a post all about how to be alone, but not lonely. Over the years, I have grown very accustomed to my own company. To me, I feel like alone time really helps me to recharge and feel better. However, I understand that for some people, being alone is very closely connected with feelings of loneliness. I know that I am in a very fortunate position to talk about this. I live with my husband who I absolutely adore the bones of. Plus, we have a large group of friends and an open-door policy. Very rarely do I go a full day without somebody nipping into our house. But I recognise that is not the same for everybody. You may go through large periods of time of not seeing anybody. Which is why I wanted to write this post.

 

 

Learn to appreciate the quiet.

One thing that I did very early on into my period of loneliness was to appreciate the calm. Don’t get me wrong, I love a buzz around me. I am the kind of person that replicates other peoples energy. However, sometimes I like to take time and just focus on the quiet. It can be very calming and soothing to be in a peaceful environment. With nobody around slamming doors, talking your ear off, with no phone ringing out, etc. Quiet is a luxury and people should see it as that.

 

Make future plans to look forward to.

Sometimes else that I did to help me be alone, but not lonely was to make plans. Just because my social activities were low on the ground in that minute, it didn’t mean that they always had to be like that. I reached out to people to try and put something in my calendar that I could look forward to. After being reclusive for some time, I could be pretty low on friends. However, my family were the people that I turned to in these instances. Even if it was an occasion a month away, it would make me feel much less, alone.

 

Make your surrounding enjoyable.

During a delve into depression a couple of years ago, I sat in the house for almost 6 months. The only time that I would leave the house was to go to work and the supermarket. I became resentful of my home because I felt quite trapped in there. Because of that, I wanted to make the absolute most of the space that I had and utilise it for what I wanted. I decorated the entire house from top to bottom and made it match my aesthetic. Don’t get me wrong, I more than appreciate that I was in a financial position to do this. It helped though, more than I can say.

 

Do things that make you busy.

Sometimes, as much as did the steps above and they helped me, I had to do something else. For me, that always includes keeping busy. Fortunately for me, my OCD is both a blessing and a curse. It keeps my mind ticking and I am always looking at things to do. Because of that, I can very easily make myself nice and busy. Whether it is cleaning, organising or nipping out and about, there is always something that I can occupy myself with. As soon as my mind was on another task, I used to feel much better and a hell of a lot lighter.

 

I hope that you guys liked this post about how to be alone, but not lonely. I know that these things are all hell of a lot easier said then done. Many years ago, when I was going through a lower period in my life, my social life really took a tumble because of it. Some of my friends at the time stopped reaching out because they knew that I was in a reclusive period of my life. However, by doing these things, I learned to enjoy the stage that I was at. For me, being happy in my surroundings is something that has helped me infinite amounts. However, if you do want to make a change, take a daring step to step out of your comfort zone. I had to do the same to get past my loneliness and I am so glad that I did.