Things I Won’t Be Able To Do As A New Mother

From the moment that I announced my pregnancy to the world, people have relished in telling me all of the things that I am not going to be able to do. Very rarely do people focus on the good. Instead they like to instill fear by detailing how much my life is going to change. Trust me, I know that my life is going to be turned on its head. But there is nothing more that I love than Jean in accounting at work going into detail about my freewill being a thing of the past. In this post, I am going to share with you some of the hilarious thing that people have said to me over the last few weeks. Here are all the things I won’t be able to do as a new mother.

 

 

Leave the house.

I know that it can be hard to leave the house with kids. I have seen my sister fight her two kids to get them into the car. However, it is not impossible. The more you do something, the more streamlined it can become. I then look at my cousin that takes a no thrills approach to leaving the house. She straps her daughter into the car, throws in a bag and takes off. She can always make do with what she has and she never focuses on how perfect she, or her daughter looks. Simple and effective!

 

Have a lazy day.

Something that I adore is a lazy day. Just a day at home, with nothing on my to do list where I can sit, relax and do a hell of a lot of nothing. However, something that people have been loving to tell me is that relaxation was a thing of the past. No longer will I be able to lay on the sofa. For the next 18 years I am going to be running around after a little person without a single moment to myself. Bullshit. Some of my core memories as a child are having duvet days watching countless movies with my mum.

 

Go on fancy holidays.

I am a lover of a good holiday as you may have seen if you follow me on Instagram. But again, this is something that I won’t be able to do as a new mother. But I think what people don’t realise is that my husband and I have been going to these fancier places to get out fill of them before our holidays do change massively. But that doesn’t mean that we still can’t go to nice places. Granted, long haul flights might be on pause for a while. But I can remember being incredibly young and going places like Bali, Maldives, Santorini, South Africa and many more.

 

Buy designer items.

If you have visited this site before, you will see the plethora of designer items that I own. Fashion is a passion of mine that I absolutely adore. That has then translated into me having quite a collection of stunning designer items. Apparently, as soon as I give birth, all the money in my bank account will disappear and I will no longer be able to afford my current lifestyle. Do you really think I could afford to spend £12,000 on a Hermes Mini Kelly if I lived pay cheque to pay cheque. This isn’t me gloating, this is me being real. How can anybody comment on my financial position. It blows my mind. The designer items are here to stay and if I do stop purchasing, it will be more a matter of taste rather than finances.

 

Have date nights.

Like with many things, this is something else that apparently won’t be able to do as a new mother. Currently, my husband and I go on a fortnightly date night. We wish that we could do it more, but with our schedules as they currently are, we couldn’t make it work. However, people are taking great pleasure in telling me that they will be a thing of the past. Let me tell you right now and right here, no they will not. We have a huge support network around us, and we won’t be afraid to ask for help and babysitting.  If we can’t make time for each other 26 times per year, there is something wrong and we are determined to make it work.

 

Do my freelance work.

I have let many people know that even though I am taking time off from my full-time job, I still intend on working freelance for my clients. Don’t get me wrong, I am taking some time to recoup, but I will be back after a few weeks. Many people think that I won’t be able to do this as a new mother. That I will be swamped and completely overwhelmed. That may be the case, but I am trying to set positive intentions. The beauty with my freelance work is that there are never tight deadlines, it is flexible and I can make it work for me. I think because people don’t understand how I work, they just think I’m crazy.

 

As always, I hope you enjoyed this and learning about the things that I won’t be able to do as a new mother. I think that sometimes people share these things from their own experience. They may have a different support network to that which I have around me. Or they may be a different style parent to what I intend to be. I most certainly am not blind to the fact that my life is going to change forever. However, I am opting to go into this with optimism and positivity. I don’t want to think about what I am losing; my aim is to focus on what I am gaining.